We hear from a young age, “you need to be more confident” or “she is just insecure.” What exactly is confidence? According to Google, confidence is “a feeling of self-assurance arising from one’s appreciation of one’s own abilities or qualities”.
The truth is that unless you are confident, you won’t truly know what the word means. To me, confidence means going into an interview and feeling like “I’ve got this”, whether I actually get it or not. I have auditioned for modeling gigs and participated in pageants, and they are the worst because I usually compare myself to the other girls. The reality is that there is always going to be a person who is smarter, more beautiful, and younger than you.
Confidence is being in a relationship with someone and trusting that you are a catch. You are confident enough in yourself and in your relationship that you don’t need to check up on your significant other.
How exactly did I gain confidence? I think it comes with age. My confidence as a 21-year-old is completely different as a 27-year-old. It starts with trying to be the best version of yourself. Waking up every morning and telling myself in front of the mirror, “I am enough. I am great. I’ve got this.” Confidence comes from loving yourself first and being your own biggest cheerleader. Once I truly believed this, I gained confidence.